When I was in college, my high school friend Allie told me she and her sisters had saved up $10,000 over the years from the monthly allowance their parents gave them, and they were giving it to their mother for her birthday. She had been wanting to re-carpet the house or something she considered frivolous, so they were stipulating that she had to spend it on something frivolous and couldn't spend it paying bills. When this news got back to my mother, she caught my eye and told me pointedly, "I wish ALLIE were my daughter."
I don't remember being offended by the comment or taking it personally. It was sort of typical of my mother. She may as well have said, "I'm hoping to guilt you into giving me money." I also knew Allie and her sisters all received substantially more in allowance than my parents had ever given me and that, had Allie been my mother's daughter, she would have had nothing to give her. Knowing that helped.